You are attempting to contextualize the very macro concept of my article to micro anecdotal experiences from a perspective which is does not consider the past and present of women of color outside of your family, whilst only considering the one-sided truths of women* within your family. In other words, the reasoning you are employing aligns closely to a logical fallacy.

I urge you to look beyond the surface as my article is not simply about crying or race but is instead about power — both to emote and who holds and wields this power.

This power dynamic may be a new concept to some but it rings wearily true to women of color, particularly black women who are starkly aware of their position in society.

You may very well look on the women of your family solely by their features, gifts and talents however, a majority of the world does not and will never do so and because of this very human and divinely intentional fact — the facts and realities mentioned in my article are born.

If these come as startling facts to you, sir you may have a great deal of reading to do.

*No matter the nurture, environment or social landscape, placing women (white sisters) and women of color (brown daughters) into a vacuum will create flying generalizations.