“Love Life” Lessons I Live By

The Constancy of Change

If “Love Life” drives any point home, it’s that plans seldom pan out how we imagine. Ideas of family, success, and relationships are just ideas and ideas and reality are sisters not twins.

Tell them how you feel

Honesty never gets easier and matters of the heart only seem to further complicate it. Telling someone how you really feel is far better than holding it in your craw until kingdom come and go. Telling someone how you feel frees you of a world of what ifs, maybes, and if onlys paving a path to live in the present.

We don’t have to earn who we’ve been made to be

The road does in fact rise to meet us.

The main characters of season one and two hold their passions in dissonance to what they do day-to-day, a familiar experience for many.

As the season and character arcs progress, these protagonists resist the temptation to deny themselves of who they are. They blossom into the careers they pine for, the individuals they’ve always wanted to be, and grow into a version of themselves ever-present and available.

Good friends are good council

Friendships in this show are like a Greek chorus. Our protagonists’ friends hold mirrors up to their actions for their own betterment.

If your friends don’t give you good, loving, trauma-free council, those are not your friends. The sooner you realize that is the sooner you’ll find the good ones.

Getting married won’t fix it

What I’ve learned from my married (and divorced) family and friends is that marriage exorcises what was always in the body. It is both a revealing and daily shedding of self. Marrying the wrong person is 50/50 and is sometimes fatal. Marriage is not a bandaid for an absentee parent, a poor upbringing, feelings of loneliness, or exclusion. Marriage does not fix it. It may not even heal it, whatever it is. Marriage exposes it.

Please, Don’t settle

It’s easy enough to say but some of us settle without knowing it. We end up in jobs, mindsets, relationships, and cycles that restrict our growth and limit our potential. Settling is equal parts fear and believing nothing better exists.

Yet “Love Life” underlines that all good parts of life start when fear is ignored and expecting better is the norm.